Talking Out Your Fears

Going through life we all make errors in judgement – it’s inevitable, nobody is perfect.

I am led by my emotions and unfortunately make a lot of knee-jerk reaction choices when in certain situations.

However, I had a conversation today in relation to how people handle various situations in life and going forward I am going to alter my usual reactions and follow this advice. After walking away and thinking about it I realised that this could be applied to any part of our lives.

Some of you may have heard the phrase “Talking out your fears” and know what it means but I never have before today.

The General Principle

If you’re faced with a situation and you are ready to react with a knee-jerk reaction then the likelihood is that this reaction is not going to be in your best interests as it’s a more emotive choice rather than a logical one.

Obviously that’s not always easy to do for some of us, but before you drop that absolute clanger, you will always have time to ask yourself the question..

What is most likely to happen next?

Then What?

Whatever choice you have mentally made in terms of your reaction, STOP! Before you react in that way ask yourself this:

If I react like that, what is most likely to happen next?
Then, ask yourself again, if that happens, then what?

Keep doing it until you realise that the final outcome is not at all the best one for you.

It changes the whole outlook of the situation and allows you to realise that the likely end scenario is not ideally where you want to end up. It’s just your emotions leading your decisions and tricking your brain.

In fact, it would be good practice to try this going forward for any decision which needs to be made – you will always come to a better decision than if you are led by the emotions you’re feeling at that precise moment.

What has this got to do with Mums working from home?

As I said, this can be applied to any part of your life, personal or work life.

If you’re currently looking for working from home opportunities the chances are that you’ve tried a few already which haven’t worked out.

If you’ve tried a few it means you have given up on them for whatever reason – usually because you either see no future in it or it was a scam which you were tricked into.

Now if you joined a real, legitimate working from home opportunity that wasn’t a “get-rich-quick” scheme but it was a longer burn – one that you had to work at but knew that you would get that brighter future that you seek – at some point you may start to flag.

You may lose enthusiasm because it’s not happening as fast as you’d like it to.
You could start questioning whether you are cut out for it because other people are doing the same thing but they have started making money faster than you have.
It may be, that you lose confidence in yourself and don’t believe you can actually get to the end result

It’s a normal thought process for any of us. BUT the next thought is inevitably “what should I do about it?”

Are you going to quit again? When will all of the walking away stop? The “get-rich-quick scheme” doesn’t exist and you know that deep down. It’s a pipe dream pushed by the scam artists who just want your money.

Let’s try Talking Out Your Fears at That Moment….

I will use Wealthy Affiliate as an example here as it’s the most real and legitimate working from home opportunity that I’ve come across and it’s FREE so definitely not a scam.

This is how it plays out:

Firstly we sign up with our FREE membership and have a good look around the platform and what’s on offer. Everything looks great. So far so good.

We get to know some people in the Community almost straight away because from day one they are stepping up to offer help and support. We look around the step-by-step training modules, read the motivational blogs from within the Forum etc. etc. the list goes on, there is so much to take in.

We love it from the start. So once we have satisfied our curiosity and recognised the scale of the opportunity on offer we sign up to Premium. By then we know the full value of what we can achieve here, the unquestionable support which is given and the tools that are on offer to ensure we succeed.

A few modules into the training, after setting up our own live website and choosing our niche we start to realise that there is a lot of work required to get to where we want to be.

Lots of research to do, writing website content, working through the training modules etc. – we know the success is achievable and we are loving what we are learning and adding to our website every day but how long will it take to earn the money?

What drives us after we reach that point?

It’s not what drove us initially.

At the beginning it was thinking about the money which can be earned, the financial freedom – being able to work from home and at the same time being there for our children. Obviously you still know the future end result hasn’t changed but your perception of how to get there might have.

I’m sure most of you, like me, would get so much more out of Wealthy Affiliate than you expected after you decided to commit your time and effort for the future that you want.

All of us existing members say on almost a daily basis, there is no other forum or Community on the Internet that even comes close to the support and help we give each other – especially one with over 2m members!

However, despite all that’s on offer, inevitably there are people that quit – there always will be in anything that requires some work.

People who signed up thinking it’s quick, easy money (I don’t know why there is this misconception that if it’s money earned on the internet it’s quick and easy?)

Very few businesses, if any, earn money quickly and easily. In a bricks & mortar business you have to do a business plan, invest your time in setting it up and continually work on it to make it a success – why should an internet business be any different? I don’t get it….

So, what leads these people to quit?

Obviously sometimes it’s life circumstances which can’t be helped – but I’m talking about the ones which just decide one day that it’s not worth their time.

If they have been part of Wealthy Affiliate for five or six months, how much content must they have written, how many hours have they put into their new business? Into the training?

Those are hours which you aren’t going to get back. Hours of your life which have been totally wasted – for what? A big, fat nothing!

So my theory is – for anybody who reaches the point (in any business venture) where they think to themselves, “what’s the point, it’s taking too long” firstly STOP! Talk Out Your Fears.

Here’s how it could look:

“This is taking too long, I thought it would happen faster – I’m not happy”